Why It Helps to Get to The Root of Your Emotions

Life often brings us to moments where our emotions feel tangled and heavy, much like roots buried deep beneath the surface. Just as a toothache often signals something deeper beneath the gumline, our feelings can be traced back to experiences that live deep within us. And while practices like meditation or yoga help ease the momentary ache, true transformation happens when we venture into those hidden depths and nurture the roots of our pain.

Healing isn’t about patching up the surface—it’s about embracing the work of getting to the root of your emotions. It’s about finding and freeing the parts of yourself that have held onto past wounds. Let’s explore what this looks like.

True transformation happens when we venture into those hidden depths and nurture the roots of our pain.

Step 1: Finding the Source of Your Pain

Before we can heal, we need to understand where the pain began. Just as a dentist must look deeper to uncover the cause of a toothache, we must be willing to look beneath our current struggles to find their roots. What experiences have shaped these feelings? Which memories come up again and again, whispering the same old stories?

Think of this as sitting down with the younger version of yourself who first felt these emotions. You’re not here to blame or criticize; you’re here to listen, validate, care, and hold space for what’s been tucked away for so long. It’s the beginning of a new story—one that honors where you’ve been and opens the door to healing.

Step 2: Cleansing Your Inner World

Once you’ve identified the roots, it’s time to cleanse and clear the beliefs that have grown from them. This is about letting go of the narratives that have kept you stuck—like the old belief that you’re not good enough, not lovable, or not worthy of joy. It’s a bit like cleaning out a root canal—removing the infection so that healing can begin.

This stage invites you to create space for healthier beliefs and kinder self-perceptions. It’s about noticing what no longer serves you and actively choosing to release it. There’s power in letting go of what’s been weighing you down, freeing up room for what nurtures you instead.

Step 3: Planting New Beliefs and Perspectives

As you clear away the old, it’s time to plant new seeds—new beliefs about yourself and the world around you. Imagine replacing those limiting narratives with words of kindness: "I am worthy," "I am enough," "I am deserving of love." Just as an endodontist fills and seals a treated root canal, you are now filling yourself with beliefs that empower and uplift you.

This is where you begin to see yourself in a new light. You’re not here to erase the past, but to honor it, grow from it, and allow new perspectives to take root. It’s an ongoing practice of choosing thoughts that align with the loving, compassionate being you truly are.

Step 4: Protecting Your New Growth

After the deep work of healing, it’s important to create boundaries that protect your emotional well-being. This is the part where you place a “crown” over your heart, much like a dentist would do for a tooth. But in this case, it’s a crown made of self-love, intentional boundaries, and nourishing routines.

What can you put in place to support your newfound strength? It could be a commitment to daily self-care, nurturing connections, or simply allowing yourself moments of stillness. Protecting your inner growth isn’t about shielding yourself from life; it’s about creating a safe space within that allows you to thrive, no matter what.

I won't sugarcoat it. Root canals can be a bit painful and scary. And so too getting to the root of your emotions is rarely pain-free and easy. It’s often messy, uncomfortable, and at times, even painful. But just as most people who undergo a root canal feel relieved afterward, diving deep into your emotional roots brings a profound sense of healing and peace. When you allow yourself to heal from within, you’ll find that the transformation extends beyond just feeling better—it touches every aspect of your life. So, why not dive in and give it a try?

Before I go, I want to extend an invite to you to join my group program, Happy from the Inside Out: How to Become the Partner, Parent, and Person You Want to Be. It’s a journey toward healing the inner roots that have shaped you, so you can grow into the person you’ve always meant to be. Check it out here or come work with me one-on-one ♡ Whether in a group or one-on-one, we’ll work together to create lasting change that comes from the inside out—and therefore has lots of lasting potential.